I’m going to miss a friend’s wedding. At first I thought it would work out perfectly. I would be in the state for a show, I would finish the show the day before, then go to the wedding the next day. Turns out I have a show on the day of the wedding. I will miss the ceremony for sure as I’ll be on stage and where I’m performing is quite a drive from the wedding. And so I will most likely miss it.
If I had really planned it, I could have said no to the job originally. It was two months of work but if I truly wanted to attend the wedding I could have done it. Friends suggested I take a sicky. Unfortunately being an actor doesn’t work like that. When you’re lead of the show that you’ve been working on and you chuck a sicky no one is going to be a happy camper. Or can they move the show? Unlikely.
And so you miss out on things. You say yes to opportunities and no to other things.
I get it. Acting isn’t rocket science. It’s a great profession honestly. But there are sacrifices made that make it not so great. And sometimes it’s difficult to find people who understand.
My family has gotten on board with my ‘unreliability’. They will plan events, tell me that they are on, and allow me to let them know closer to the date. Or, if it’s something they want me to be at, they tell me clearly that they want me there and I make it work. Compromise. My friends realise that it’s hard to make plans with me. Some get rosters for their entire year so know where they will be at any given point during the year. They know that I’m not like that. It’s a constant balance of compromise and communication.